Gay Marriage: Time to Get Active

This is my last post on the National Organization for Marriage. I know that sending these emails to Brian Brown is not very effective. So after hearing on Gay USA last week, that people from out of state can volunteer to call California voters, I’ve done just that. It’s been great so far. Lots of people have already pledged to vote yes. And I’m hoping I’ve nudged some undecideds in the right direction. If you want to find out how you can help, visit the No on Prop 8 website.

Here’s the latest email I received:

Dear Arym,,

Victory on Prop 8 is coming down to whether we can raise the money to get the truth out.

The LA Times ran a story on Oct. 18, “Prop. 8 battle rages over whether gay marriage would be taught in schools.”

“They just made something up in order to scare people and change the subject,” said Shannon Minter, legal director for the National Center for Lesbian Rights.

On AM 640’s “Jon & Ken show”–the top radio show in its time slot in San Diego–the hosts, after making fun of a poor woman who believes in prayer and fasting, started making fun of the idea that letting the Supreme Court impose gay marriage on California is going to lead to children being taught about gay marriage in public schools.

Jon, Ken, can we get real for a moment?

Imagine Prop 8 goes down to defeat. Some day very soon, maybe Nov. 5, a public school teacher, who reads to her kindergarteners every day, is going to decide to read “King and King,” the nice fairy tale about a prince who marries a prince and lives happily ever after.

A parent, let’s call her Anna, will hear about this and object to the teacher and/or principal.

What will happen to Anna if we lose on Prop 8? It’s not hard to see: Anna will be told that gay marriage is the law of the land, and a civil rights victory to boot. Other points of view are just bigotry–the Supreme Court has said so!

Because the book is not part of a sex education curriculum, Anna will be told by the principal she has no right to exclude her son. She has no power to protect her 5-year-old boy from being taught in public school that gay marriage is good and normal.

This is going to happen. It already happened to countless parents in Massachusetts after that court ordered gay marriage.

I got an email this week (maybe you did too) from one parent who wrote, “At my own children’s high school there was a school-wide assembly to celebrate same-sex ‘marriage’ in early December, 2003” (i.e., a month after the supreme court decision legalizing same-sex marriage). “…Literature on same-sex marriage–how it is now a normal part of society–was handed out to the students.”

Moreover, I’m willing to bet that a lot of the people in California vigorously claiming public schools won’t teach about gay marriage (certainly Sharon Minter, maybe even Jon and Ken?) are going to turn right around if Prop 8 loses and say, “Of course it’s okay for teachers to read stories of gay marriage to second-graders. It’s legal in California!”

In Florida and Arizona the big lie is: Gay marriage is not a threat, because we have laws against gay marriage. How they can go around saying such things the same year that two supreme courts threw out states’ marriage laws and imposed gay marriage?

Gay rights advocates said the same thing in California in 2000, remember? “Oh, it’s ridiculous to imagine gay marriage ever coming to California, we don’t need a new law.”

And what did they say in California as they passed civil unions, remember? “Oh, it’s just scaremongering to imagine this has anything to do with marriage.” (That was right before the same activists used the civil union law in court to strike down the marriage laws.)

“Fool me once, shame on you; fool me hundreds of times and….”

How many times in a short space of time can gay marriage advocates tell us blatant untruths about their plans and expect us to continue to believe that theirs is a voice of truth and tolerance?

All we are asking for is simple honesty and basic fairness: Tell California voters the truth about what gay marriage–“No on Prop 8”–really means.

Second graders will be taught, using our tax dollars in public schools, that gay marriage is something to be celebrated. That’s because gay marriage is not about what a couple does in private, it’s about what government is going insist we all believe in public.

Oh yes, and one other thing to gay marriage advocates: Could you have the decency not to target people for punishment based on their religion? Gay marriage advocates are specifically targeting donors who are Mormons and trying to dig up dirt to punish them for donating to Prop 8.

People who would do such a thing are not nice people. They are not tolerant people. They do not care about the civil rights or even commonly decent behavior towards fellow citizens with whom they disagree.

I’m hoping and praying such people do not represent most gay marriage advocates.

We can do better, and be better than that. A Yes on Prop 8 vote does not take away a single practical benefit from same-sex couples, who remain protected by civil unions. It will protect our traditional understanding of marriage–in law, in public schools, and in the society as a whole.

This is our last chance to get the truth out. The whole future of marriage hangs in the balance. Can you reach down and make one last sacrifice? $10, $100, $1,000, or if God has given you the means, $10,000?

(I feel presumptious even asking for such sums, but I have to ask–it’s down to the wire. Gay marriage opponents raised $4 million in the last few days.)

We are so close to victory. What if your contribution could bring one more voter–the winning margin–to stand for God’s truth against the deceptions of our opponents?

Whether you can or not, I know how much you care, and how much you’ve sacrificed for this issue. From the bottom of my heart: thank you.

Thank you for standing up for the truth about this great, sacred good called marriage.

It’s an honor to be fighting shoulder-to-shoulder with folks like you.

Yours in Christ,
Brian Brown

And here’s my final reply:

Dear Brian,

In your letter you wrote: “Gay marriage advocates are specifically targeting donors who are Mormons and trying to dig up dirt to punish them for donating to Prop 8.

People who would do such a thing are not nice people. They are not tolerant people. They do not care about the civil rights or even commonly decent behavior towards fellow citizens with whom they disagree.”

I could say the same thing about you and your fellow prop 8 supporters. You are specifically targeting gay people with this legislation. Yourcampaign will hold up one incidence of violence and call all gay people intolerant. You do not care about the civil rights of gay people or even commonly decent behavior towards fellow citizens with whom you disagree.

If you think being gay is a choice, you are sadly mistaken. I am just as much a normal human being as you are, and as such, I demand to have the same civil rights. Thanks to the hatred I feel emanating between the lines of your emails, I have decided to join the No on 8 campaign. Even though I live a few states over from California, I will volunteer my time to reach out to voters and explain why prop 8 singles out one group of voters for unfair treatment under the law.


So ask yourself not what prop 8 can do for you, but what you can do for prop 8.


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